Fathering through separation

Separation whether it is your choice or not is a huge milestone in anyone’s life…………….

Let’s remember our kids have no choice when this happens, and they still need to adjust and manage the changes so, let’s think about the kids for a second.

As a parent and father, we have lots of power and control in how we support our children during this transition stage.

This process may be a very painful one for you particularly if that person has hurt you and you are still dealing with the emotional work needed to get through this difficult time.

It might be helpful for you to remember that your children love both of their parents despite what is happening between you both, they will feel conflicted.

It is important not to criticise your ex or involve your child in any conflict at this time, being also mindful of conversations that kids may overhear, let’s say if you are venting to a close friend or relative over the phone.

Separation and the conflict it can bring is adult stuff, it is good to let our kids know what is happening on a practical level and of course answer any questions they may have.

Accepting that the other parent will still have a major role to play in your child’s life and being respectful about them (despite your feeling) is in the best interests of your child’s wellbeing.